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When other people read my blog

It’s one of the most flattering things in the world, when someone tells me that he/she reads my blog, especially if it’s someone I don’t really know. I’ve never considered myself to be much of a writer, so when others start complimenting me on it, I blush. That sort of thing always makes my day, honestly.

Though I love it when people tell me that they read my writings, when they read in front of my face, I freak out – especially if they’re reading it out loud.

I suddenly get all self-conscious. I start thinking things like, “I wrote that so badly!” or, “That doesn’t even sound like me!” or maybe even, “That thing I wrote makes it seem like I’m trying too hard, damn it.” I make strange, high-pitched noises, accompanied by my yelling, demanding that they stop reading.

In general, I am proud of my work, but, when it’s right there in front of both my eyes and someone elses, I get paranoid that they would see something wrong in my work and start laughing at me. It’s stupid, and I don’t know why I let myself think that way. I just do.

I know how that feels! But as for me when somebody I know (especially if that person is from the office) gets to read my blog, I end up shying away coz i’m not used to being “confronted” like that about my random blog entries. Haha. I’m just lucky that my blog entries aren’t that personal so I get away with it a bit :p

Comment by Gel • June 7, 2011 • 12:17 am

No one I know has ever read it in front of me, mainly because everyone IRL doesn’t know about it, and I plan to keep it that way. x) Though it’s nice to know that our thoughts don’t fall on deaf ears. We blog because we love it, and when someone comments (at least on my end), it feels nice to be heard and recognized. Sometimes their comments or advice is even more helpful than of those we know in real life. Added bonus!

Comment by Leeza • June 7, 2011 • 12:17 am

I feel this exact same way! I love when someone says they like my blog, and they enjoy it. I think I am a pretty boring blogger. I can never think of good topics, so I just blog about my life. Don’t worry, my writing skills suck. D: I wish I could write better!

I know, I am so glad I found it. :D

Oh yeah, I still find myself feeling sad at times, but it is time to move on. Getting on with my life, ya know?

Comment by Anna • June 7, 2011 • 1:41 am

Oh, I totally agree! My best friend and boyfriend both read my blog, and I hate it when they come over and are like, “I wanna read it!” I’m all, not in front of me, ahhh. It makes me really self conscious, so I totally get what you mean. It is pretty silly, that I can let complete strangers read it on their computer with no problem, but when they’re right in front of me, it drives me crazy!

Oooh, your vacation sounded like it would be really fun! I don’t have a laptop, and I won’t be able to use my cell, so I’m basically relying on internet cafe’s over there. I’ve no idea how much it is, or how many there are or anything, plus I’m on a once in a life time trip, I don’t want to spend it all on the computer. :P I’ll manage without him for two weeks. Thank you! I’ve been to Europe once before and it was great! I’d really suggest going if you could!

Yeah, it’s taking forever for my paint to dry. It’s still a little tacky because we didn’t want to open the windows since we have the air conditioner on. Plus it’s like 95F out. Too hot for that! Redoing your room is fun. and thank you! :)

Comment by Becca • June 7, 2011 • 2:51 am

Same here. I always get flattered when people tell me that they read my blog. I have a friend in real life who bookmarked one of my past blogs on her browser, and when I saw her computer, I felt warm and fuzzy.

I don’t write a lot of things, but I never get embarrassed or worried when people read my writings in front of me. One time I wrote a short story about a serial killer whose victims were prostitutes, and I didn’t care that most of the people who read my story looked at me weirdly. There was some profanity in it, too. My teacher loved it, though.

Comment by Nugget • June 7, 2011 • 5:28 am

I agree with what you’re talking about. I get really happy when people talk to me face-to-face and tell me that they read my blog and like it as well. It also makes my day, and even when something really infuriating happens, I still have a touch of happiness in me. :)

Same here! I’m really embarrassed sometimes when people start reading out loud. I immediately panic and I’d beg them not to read. Sometimes they stop, and sometimes they don’t. But usually, when I beg really desperately, they’d stop.

It still makes me happy to know that people are reading and they like my blog. :)

Comment by Dorine • June 7, 2011 • 6:07 pm

Believe it or not, darling, we are so much alike. :) I feel completely stupid when people read my work out loud, and my face turns into a big red pepper. LOL. I believe it’s normal for everyone – excepting highly self-centered people, but they’re like a whole another species really.

Anyway, it’s sad that I couldn’t come here and read in such a long time. And comment. I’ve always loved your blog, but 2011 started bad with hosting issues, family issues, relatives dying, exams failings, etc. x__x I’m only relaxing now. Just know this: I haven’t forgotten about you, I still love your blog and still like you as a person; sometimes things just get in the way. Seeing your comment on my blog entry today totally made my day. *_* I’m glad you thought of dropping by. *hugs*

I hope to come back here any time SOON. :3

~ Luana S.

Clarisse

Woah, they actually marked this comment as spam! It makes me wonder what other comments may have accidentally been trashed by Akismet…

I saw you post in Twitter about a new blog post and realized that I haven’t commented on there in a while, so I did. :)

Comment by Luana • June 7, 2011 • 7:05 pm

I don’t really freak out but I get all excited when someone comments on my blog and say that they’ve been reading for a while but never commented. There are so many of those people hiding out there! And also, the friends who read but sometimes don’t leave comments because they have nothing to say. I feel like blushing every time someone tells me they read my blog.

I’m definitely proud of what I do but I think everyone is the harshest critic of themselves. Sometimes we should not be too modest and just take compliments whole-heartedly. :)

Comment by Georgina • June 7, 2011 • 10:35 pm

Nobody apart from my boyfriend and best friend know about my blog, so nobody really mentions reading it? When it comes to writing assignments, I may ask for one person to go over the material and I too can feel a bit conscious. People tell me I write well and shouldn’t worry about it because even what I consider my most “shitty” writing, I still manage to pull a B or A. Maybe I’m just lucky like that?

I will however get people that frequently say that they love my blog after commenting or I had written a good entry. THAT makes me feel warm and cozy; shows that you have visitors that actually care.

Comment by Kelsey • June 8, 2011 • 12:57 am

When people compliment me in any way I feel that way too. It almost makes me want to make it where they won’t compliment me. Then I realized, that’s not right, it’s ok to be complimented even in the midst of failures. But I would love to get rid of that shy feeling. It’s just startling to me when people want to make you feel successful and good about yourself. I don’t know why when that is what I want others to feel too.

Comment by Cami • June 8, 2011 • 5:26 am

I know what you mean! D: I get SO self concious. I know I’m not a good writer blog-wise, but I’m a pretty good writer when it comes to writing formal persuasive papers. I even get nervous then!! I hate it when people read/look at my work right in front of me.. I keep thinking… well, I keep thinking like you think. I just get so nervous!! I remember when writing class first started, she let us pick our own seats and let us know that we would be working with the people at our tables. I purposly decided to sit by myself because the people at our tables would be reading our papers, and I don’t like people reading my papers… especially when they’re not completely finished (since I end up revising and deleting everything from the original in the end). I really wish there was a way around self-consciousness. D:

Comment by Savannah • June 8, 2011 • 5:59 am

It’s so easy for you (the writer) to see every possible flaw in your writing (blog or fiction or otherwise…). It’s your inner editor SCREAMING about commas and word usage and sentence structure… Even ideas and thoughts sometimes. The thing to remember is that other people don’t possess your inner editor, and what they’re thinking is, “wow, I never would have expressed this in this way, you’re brilliant!” It’s so hard to think of yourself that way or agree with their opinions, but put it the other way around and you kind of understand where they’re coming from — Bloggers I love write way better than I do. Well, no, they just write it differently. That’s why I love blog hopping (which is how I found you)! Different perspectives… Anyway, you’re a lovely writer. As nerve-wrecking as it is to have your words read out to you, just remember that the reader isn’t seeing all the errors you’re seeing; s/he’s appreciating instead how your brain works!

I used to hide my blog from “RL” people in the past, but I’ve just uploaded a new one/moved and have posted a link on my FB and everything. I’m trying to get over this very fear you describe… :) Trying to take more pride in my words!

Comment by Michelle • June 8, 2011 • 8:53 am

I get what you mean. I feel the exact same way when somebody I know reads something I wrote in front of my face. It’s embarrassing, most especially if I wrote something personal. But I don’t really mind people reading my stuff, like my blog, as long as they are not in front of me.

I also love getting comments, although some of them are sometimes off topic . . . maybe because they haven’t really read my blog. But that’s fine, because I know most of them do read my blog. ^_^

Comment by Nagashiko • June 8, 2011 • 12:11 pm

Why wouldn’t you get flattered with an amazing site like this? :P! But I understand what you mean. Other people reading your post– that you know in person can be awkward. But I guess we just become self-conscious because it’s like the “wrong” person reading it and it’s something psychological! You have skills that a lot of people in the offline world that you know don’t. Unless you obviously hang out with a bunch of techies, then it’s a different story!

Thank you :D! Take care (:

Comment by Nancy • June 9, 2011 • 1:28 am

I like reading blogs in general. I find it interesting, what is going on in someone else’s life rather my own. Also, sometimes, I learn a thing or two from reading those blogs. ^_^

I’m not embarrassed if people read my blog, but I’m a bit uncomfortable if someone reads it over my shoulder when I’m just writing it. It’s kind of like a public journal, so it really shouldn’t be a matter, but I”m discomfited by it. :|

Comment by Amy • June 9, 2011 • 8:41 am

That’s why I love blogging. I never have to see anyone read any of my blogs. And, while I don’t really have many issues with spelling, Firefox is able to catch all the pesky little typos I make. If I write something out by hands, who knows what kind of weird errors I made.

I guess I just hate the idea of being judged on my work. I take pride in my writing and artwork, and while I grow to appreciate constructive criticism eventually, I never want to feel the initial sting of it. That’s probably why we spaz out. And for me, at least, I have a bit of a reputation to maintain. AP kids are competitive, and the majority of them know that I’m always the one with the super high grade in English. Even my friends want to catch me on every error to bring me done.
‘Tis a sad world. -_-

Comment by Gabi • June 9, 2011 • 12:15 pm

I’ve never let anyone in my offline world know of my blog, so I can’t really say that I have this problem with my blogs. However, when others read my papers and other writings for things such as school – THEN I react almost the same way. I freak out and start overly criticizing myself :S I always hate turning papers into teachers because I’m afraid they’ll think “Wow, this girl is an idiot.” or something, haha. I end up getting decent grades on my writing, but it still terrifies me.

You’re not alone! I think many people are like that, heh.

Comment by Jessica • June 9, 2011 • 10:40 pm

Haha, I feel the same way. :P I mean, I would rather people read it and comment it, rather than them read it and be right in front of me, in the other room, etc. I also don’t like it when I have to explain every little thing or paragraph I write about, or even something that happened. That happened a lot whenever my mom blogged and read my blogs. I just feel all awkward and such. :( Ugh.

Comment by Liz • June 10, 2011 • 2:25 am

First off I have to say I love the layout! So green and brown! Perfect color combination! :D I have kept a lot of my offline world out of the picture. I do not really want them to criticized me for my blog. Only one who knows is my best friend and even then I feel weird with her reading it. I think if someone had ever read it out loud to me I would react the exact same way.

Comment by Domenica • June 10, 2011 • 4:01 am

I’m the same way. Not just with my writing, but with my websites, too. Like, I like when people look at my website, but I start geeking out when they look at it while I’m there.

Comment by Jayy • June 16, 2011 • 1:36 am

Same with me! People normally come up to me and ask if they can read what I’ve written but then I really freak out. :c Also when people are walking by and glance at my work I quickly cover it up because I don’t want them to read it. OTL But sometimes with my friends I let them read..But when they read I don’t stand there and wait. XD

Comment by Lavie • October 11, 2011 • 4:26 pm

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