Rejection
I’m a big believer in the saying ‘everything happens for a reason’. I’m not abnormal. Bad things happen to me, I get upset. I cry. I let my emotions take over. But once I recover from all that, once my sanity returns to me, I make it a point to try to look at the positives. For every bad situation, I know something good will always come out of it.
Sometimes you just need to be just a little less selfish to see it. Losing an opportunity means giving someone else a chance at it. It’s frustrating when this happens, but think of it this way: what if someone else needs it more than you do? Or what if it wasn’t really meant for you? You might even miss out on something great because you were too stubborn, continuously pushing towards something that wasn’t actually for you.
I’m not saying that you should just take rejection as it is or that you should immediately give up when things get hard. Sometimes we forget to be just a little open-minded, that’s all. Persistence won’t always be a good thing. When you become too persistent, you start to focus your attention on one thing and ignore all others. Of course, persistence isn’t bad. Neither is focus. It’s just that, sometimes, you want something so bad that everything else becomes unimportant to you. I’m just saying that we should be wary of what’s going on in our surroundings, otherwise something amazing could pass you by, and you wouldn’t even know it.
This is great advice, Clarisse!
I’m with you. I’m a big believer of that saying as well. Not as much when I was younger since I was way more immature back then and wanted everything to go my way. But as I got older, I learned to take things as they happen. I learned to go with the flow :)
Comment by anne • April 16, 2011 • 4:34 am
I don’t really like that saying but I have to admit that we have to accept things sometimes, no matter how much they hurt or affect us. I don’t think that everything really happens for a reason but I do believe in karma.
I hate rejection and I don’t doubt that it hurts other people too. With any rejection, I keep in mind that sometimes other people got it, and it wasn’t that I wasn’t deserving or anything, but someone else got a chance. And it’s okay… and it’s okay to be emotional too.
We should definitely be more aware of what is going on around us, for we could miss yet another chance if we worry too much.
Comment by Georgina • April 16, 2011 • 10:30 pm
Like you, I do believe everything happens for a reason, and I believe in Karma as well. I’m really sensitive, and that really blows me off, but what I’ve realized is that if I don’t really sit for a while and think about why something happened, I’ll start thinking that it was “unfair” and how whatever happened to other people wasn’t as serious, etc. It’s really quite selfish, as you have mentioned, but I think it’s kind of impossible for us, as human beings, to NOT be selfish at all, haha. I think by nature, we’re born to always want to protect ourselves and get defensive about it.
Rejection is one of the worst feelings out there. It’s like getting slapped across the face. But if you really try and think about it, you’re not the only one that feels rejection and it’s part of life. People all reject things for a reason, right? (No matter how awful the reason is!) And I know for a fact I’ve rejected people’s offers before. When I think about this, I come to think about “what comes around goes around”, but I’m still grumpy about how I got rejected xD
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Comment by Chelsey • April 17, 2011 • 9:20 am
I would like to think that “everything happens for a reason”, but there are times when I’m in doubt and accuse this saying of being false. For example, what if you had a heart attack and died; was that supposed to happen for a reason? I don’t see how that could help anyone if you just died.
Rejection is a little bit harder to process and granted, I’ve never been fully rejected myself, I certainly wouldn’t want it to happen either.
Comment by Kelsey • April 19, 2011 • 2:03 am
I’m also a belivier of “everything happens for a reason”. My parents told me this as well and I grew up linking every bad or good thing to that, “everything happens for a reason”.
It’s great advice. Thank you for sharing!
Rejection sucks. I always get upset when I get rejected but I recover and think positive!!!
Comment by Pauline • April 20, 2011 • 2:07 am
I believe that everything happens for a reason, too, but I also still cry when horrible things happen to me.
I think it’s okay to be selfish at least sometimes. :3
Comment by Liz • April 22, 2011 • 8:14 am
I absolutely love this insightful blog entry. I don’t believe that everything happens for a reason, but most things do.
Some people don’t take rejection well, and sometimes I do. Sometimes I get too absorbed and determined that I have a stricter…flow, and I go around the other important stuff as if I’m blinded by my focus. I can’t exactly describe it, but that’s how it is.
Comment by Nugget • April 23, 2011 • 4:57 am
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