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Forcing Hate

Everyone has the right to love and hate, but one thing I don’t understand is why some people tend to go against what’s “in” just for the sake of it. It’s a pretty stupid way to be unique, if that’s what they’re going for. To reject a person or an idea simply because it is popular – and they’re all so proud of it too.

Honestly, if they hated these things so much, they shouldn’t be worth all the effort. If they’re gonna waste all that time, they should at least come up with more original insults – “Twilight is gay.” “Justin Bieber is gay.” “Glee is gay.” “Gay people are gay.” I mean, really?

Most people I know that supposedly ‘hate’ Twilight haven’t even tried reading it. They didn’t even try to try reading it. The same thing goes for several people who don’t like Glee. I personally don’t like Justin Bieber, but a lot of people just make fun of him for no reason.

These haters are just like their supposed opposites, who obsess over every single passing fad the same way the haters loathe them, all without a second thought, both heavily influenced by peer pressure, both wasting their lives for pretty much nothing. At least the faddists aren’t spreading unnecessary negativity (just annoying the hell out of everyone around them).

There’s a difference between being unique and mindlessly hating whatever’s “in”. You have a brain and the right to your own opinions; you might as well use them.

I read the first twilight book, wasn’t too keen so I figured I’d wait till it came out on DVD and watch it. I was surprised as it wasn’t as bad as I thought it would be.
I have always been one of these people who thinks for herself, yes it gets me into trouble, but I am not one to sit back and agree just because everyone else agrees or dislikes because everyone else dislikes.

Comment by Sage • June 10, 2011 • 5:38 pm

I remember a couple of storybooks that I read by Meg Cabot about people who didn’t voice out their opinions. These people were worried because they had to follow the “in” crowd, and they weren’t supposed to speak out their opinion… or have any opinion at all. I got a little angry about that. :(

It’s really upsetting. There’s this boy in my school class. Let’s name him Glenn. In his opinion, Justin Bieber is gay. And his friends would echo what he says. I believe it’s because he is one of the “in” crowd. I usually just keep quiet, since I don’t mix a lot with this particular guy. Let’s just say that we had something together that made it awkward. And no, it’s nothing illegal for all ages.

Ugh! I don’t hate Glee, but I really only like them because of their songs. ;) That’s because I rarely watch them, since my eyes are mostly in front of the computer. :P

Sometimes I don’t enjoy “hating” a particular thing. Why should I hate it? If I dislike it, I’ll just dislike it no matter what others say. :)

Heck, that’s how to relax.

Comment by Dorine • June 10, 2011 • 5:55 pm

I like your post today. Personally, I simply agree with what you’re saying, but I also agree so much that I could go on and on about why I agree and other things similar to this that I dislike strongly, which pretty much relate to this post as well. You know?

Anyway, well written. ^^

Exactly!! I remember watching a documentary that compared USA’s government to the UK’s (I don’t know if this is the same as England or not, I’m sorry), and all of the insurances and whatnot just seemed so much … different from ours here. But better – much better. It seemed as if, for the most part, people in the UK are more free than the people who live in the USA.

…And then there’s that whole continental fight about Canadians and Mexicans not being Americans even though they live on North America. Ugh. It just seems like all this country cares about is money and political junk – there’s always some sort of political crap/mess/etc. D:

Comment by Liz • June 11, 2011 • 1:19 pm

Oh fandoms, hahaha. I agree with you that yeah, hating on something just because it’s popular is pretty ridiculous. Why spend all that energy disliking something when you can just focus on stuff that you actually do like? I mean, I know there are stuff I hate, but I don’t spend all my time doing so. Only when it’s thrust forcibly in my face, lol. I am one of those people that don’t like Twilight/Glee, haha. Other people tend to be more eloquent or spot on than whatever I can muster up on the spot about those two, though, so here’s someone else’s very apt (for me) view on Twilight, and here’s another one for Glee. For the record, I read all the Twilight books except for the 3rd and watched S1 of Glee. XD

For the most part, though–haters gonna hate, potatoes gonna potate. Hahaha. Just like what you like, dislike what you dislike, and don’t give a damn about everyone else. XD

Clarisse

I actually do like Twilight, haha. I’m just not obsessed with it. With Glee, however, I liked the first season, though the following seasons…not so much. It’s like they’re getting lazy with the plot.

Comment by Keng • June 11, 2011 • 2:17 pm

This post is, so true. I hate seeing people say “I hate that because it’s too popular.” I mean, if you really don’t like something, then fine, who cares? But to hate something just to be “different” – that’s stupid. *rolls eyes* And it doesn’t make you different or unique, either.

I cannot stand Twilight or Justin Bieber; I read the first two Twilight books and hated them because they’re totally unoriginal and Stephenie Meyer is terrible at writing (IMO), and Justin Bieber’s music just is not for me. So, I at least have reasons, lol. I really love Glee, though c:

Sigh. People should just give things a chance before deciding that they’re automatically going to hate it just because it’s popular.

Comment by Jessica • June 11, 2011 • 11:27 pm

I know what you mean. People don’t have a reason for disliking something, they just want to be different. I actually don’t like Twilight because I read the first book and found it boring. But I can’t criticise Justin Bieber because I’ve never really listened to his music and I can’t say I don’t like Glee because I’ve never seen it. I don’t judge a book by it’s cover. :)

Comment by Holly • June 12, 2011 • 12:20 am

I know what you mean. There is a really big problem with this on twitter, or so I have seen. I, honestly, am not a huge fan of the Twilight series, but I’ve got to say they’re… okay to say the least. I read the books before they ever really got popular (maybe when they first came out or something), so I didn’t have to hear the “OMG TWILIGHT *DIES*” Until a year or two later. But with Justin Bieber & Glee, I’ve seen everything. I honestly don’t like either of them (not music taste/show taste), but I can see why people don’t like them. I don’t hate on all of them or anything, so I don’t pay much mind to them anyway. xD Though I would have to say that a lot of people do not know the difference between being unique and mindless. This is something that everyone should know the difference of.

Oh, I’m so sorry! :( At least he had a good life though, right? :3

Comment by Savannah • June 12, 2011 • 10:01 am

I agree with this. I don’t see why most people has a lot of hate in them. o___O I think they’re just some insecure people. o___O gah! but seriously I get your point and I’ve seen I mean I’ve encountered a lot of these haters already. oh well, hating won’t do any difference so why hate, right? :)

Comment by BEBE • June 12, 2011 • 12:08 pm

Herd instinct. That’s how I see it. When one person starts a “trend” with his / her opinion, everybody else follows. It’s as if other people don’t even want to use their own mind anymore and make their own decision. It’s quite pathetic if you ask me. It’s best to speak up with how you really feel about something and not just follow “trends” just to get the approval of the majority.

Comment by Gel • June 12, 2011 • 11:46 pm

In my ignorant youth, I thought hating everything popular was “cool.” Now I absolutely can’t stand people who do that. My old best friend is like that, and it drives me insane. In the seventh grade, we did a group book report on Twilight and she absolutely loved the book. As soon as the series blew up, she suddenly hated it….yet she still sees all the movies. I, honestly, am disappointed with what Twilight has turned into. I can’t say I hate it, but I’ve become…disenchanted. Still, I’d never say I hate it because I honestly enjoyed it at one point and still think the first book is good.

But, I digress.

I usually think people who talk more about what they hate than they like are lame. Like, my brother’s girlfriend is 19, and she has “anything but shit like Miley Cyrus” under the music section on her Facebook. Seriously? That’s so middle school.

Clarisse

Your old friend reminds me of the way I was when I was little, when I’d watch little kid shows and tell my parents I was just watching them to make fun of them. Haha, I wanted to be all cool and ‘grown up’.

Comment by Gabi • June 13, 2011 • 6:12 am

I stopped using the word ‘gay’ knowing it would offend some people. I don’t like people expressing their dislike for something in that way; it seems that a lot of young people need some vocabulary lessons. It seems that a lot of people don’t form their own opinion but just go along with what a lot of people say. I think what offends me the most is when someone holds an opinion about something and they don’t know much about it at all. You cannot make a valid judgement like that. It sort of reminds me how some people listen to one song of a band and suddenly they’re their biggest fan. The same goes for if they know nothing and then just hate it. I used to hate opera and metal music when I never gave it a chance. I realised how dumb that was, me going around telling people that I didn’t like those two genres when I didn’t know much about them. Now I love them. I think most people ought to learn the hard way.

Comment by Georgina • June 13, 2011 • 3:04 pm

I myself dislike Twilight, Justin Bieber and Glee but I gave all of them a chance! I actually quite enjoyed the first Twilight book; the other three? Not so much. If she would have stopped there and left a bit of mystery, I would have been okay with that. Really, I think it’s the fangirls that makes me detest things. Same would go with Justin Bieber. I will admit! I do find a few of his songs catchy, but I would never go out of my way to download the songs myself. If I have a strong dislike for something, I try my best to back it up with examples, facts and information; saying you dislike something just for the sake of not liking anything is like… what. Are you that juvenile?

As far as Glee goes, I couldn’t get into the whole dancing thing — it reminded me too much of High School Musical! Which, I also dislike but hey, at least I gave it a try! At least I can back up my opinions.

Comment by Kelsey • June 14, 2011 • 5:18 am

I like happen to like twilight to an extent where i can watch the movie once. I don’t mind Justin and I’ve never seen Glee so I can’t comment on it.
What I don’t like is that people to take the whole liking a celeb thing to a whole new level on obsession and that’s just sad to hear about because it’s like their whole life revolves around someone they haven’t met. It’s nice to like someone’s music but obsessing over that person makes people frustrated and they take it out on the celeb and not the person obsessing.

Comment by Isi • June 14, 2011 • 9:18 am

That’s so true. Sometimes people reject things only because they don’t like it, but they just say it’s too overrated and everyone uses it so it’s stupid and dumb etc.

I’ve got to admit that sometimes I do say that sometimes, and that I do judge before I actually do read or watch a book or movie for example. At first when the movie Avatar came out I have to admit it annoyed me when everyone would obsess over it, I thought it was stupid, but I watched it and it was amazing! So I’ve learned my listen and no more judging a book by it’s cover, haha.

Comment by Lean • June 14, 2011 • 11:41 am

I completely agree with you! Today actually I was sitting in our guidance office talking to one of the counselor and she was playing Zac Brown Band and another counselor came in as I was humming it and said that was the reason he didn’t like them, because they’re too mainstream. What? Zac Brown Band is one of those country bands that actually aren’t that mainstream and maybe I was humming it because hmm i don’t know, I just saw them in concert? He went on after I told him they looked so legit in concert, that I was saying that because they wore cowboy boots when I don’t think I’ve ever seen Zac Brown wear cowboy boots. Ughhh. He basically had no reason to hate them and just didn’t like them because they were becoming popular.

I personally am not a big Twilight fan because I personally think Stephanie’s writing/plot direction got a little off as the series went on.

Comment by Lynn • June 15, 2011 • 8:20 am

I know what you mean. It’s okay to hate certain things, but it doesn’t make any sense unless you have a nice, logical reason why. Otherwise, it’s just pointless hatred.

Comment by Kim • June 15, 2011 • 8:22 am

I agree with you 100% I was just complaining about haters, actually. It bothers me how people choose to hate something just because it has crazy obsessive fan girls. I mean, I’m not saying the crazy obsessive fans aren’t annoying, but it’s no reason to hate whatever they’re obsessing over. It all just seems like an annoying pointless waste of life to me. Kind of like the people who troll on youtube. blah.

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Comment by Jayy • June 16, 2011 • 1:41 am

I like your opinion on this. Personally all the things you said I dislike. I do not think people should use words such as hate and gay to describe things becuase they are very strong words and now a days people use them so lightly. I’d rather people just say I don’t like it. I don’t get why people repeatedly say they hate something, if you don’t like it don’t talk about it.
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Comment by Domenica • June 16, 2011 • 3:14 am

Quite frankly, I don’t understand how anyone could actually hate on something. Do people not know what the word hate even means? Like for example, how could you hate Justin Bieber? You could hate his music, yes, but you don’t know him, so how could you hate him personally? That’s something that annoys the shit outta me.

The term “gay” too. -_-’ Everytime I hear somebody use it to describe something in a negative way I usually reply like: “I mean it could be, but you don’t know of it’s sexual orientation so how can you say that with such assurance?” They usually shut the fuck up. xD (Hope you don’t mind if I swear. :3)

I agree with everything you’ve said. A lot of people in this world are just mindless zombies, walking around the world just feeding off of other people’s brains.

Comment by Zach • June 16, 2011 • 8:52 am

Honestly, it is hard to justify reasons for loving and hating something. You are right to say that it is unfair to hate/love something without properly understanding something. Though in the case of love, sometimes, reasons are not always clear cut. I’ve heard people saying things like, “do you need a reason to love?”, and sometimes I think that has some truth in it. But that doesn’t mean that we have to jump on the bandwagon without thorough evaluation and consideration.

I suppose it’s only natural that we don’t like things that are different from us. I don’t like Justin Bieber, for the same reason I don’t like any of the other young celebrities. Correct me if I’m wrong, but I don’t see their talents to be outstanding enough.
But maybe I’m just old-fashioned, as I don’t change my ways (and views) easily. LOL!

Comment by Kitty • June 16, 2011 • 11:44 am

I TOTALLY AGREE……holy crap………..

It is soooooooooooooo annoying when people heavily bash something when they haven’t a clue about it. I was just going to say…I was a huge raging fan of Twilight for a while & then it dawned on me that the series was poorly written, the story was a bit silly, & that the movies sucked (always thought they did though). So when I come upon people who passionately abhor Twilight, but haven’t even read a single page of the series, it bothers me because even though I dislike the series at least I have some merit as to why I want to punch it in the face whereas they dislike it simply because it’s popular or “cool” to.

Although I tend to go apeshit on people who use the term “gay” to describe something as stupid because even though most of my gay friends aren’t really bothered by the usage, it bothers me. It spreads homophobia more than it is a term synonymous to “stupid” or “lame” or “dumb”. I won’t get into that though, but it’s true since there are still so many people who live in the fear of coming out because all of their friends use the term “gay” to describe something as distasteful.

But anyway, great post, dear. I was just thinking about writing the same thing. Love or hate something because you have reasons to, not just because it’s hip to follow the crowd. By nature though, humans are conformists.

Comment by Tiff • June 16, 2011 • 12:38 pm

I agree. There are a lot of haters out there who hate ‘what’s in’. For example, Twilight. I find Twilight a little ‘gay’ because the vampires sparkle in the story, not because it’s ‘in’. In fact, I enjoyed all the Twilight installments regardless of what other people think.

Overall, pointless hatred is ‘gay’. LOL

Comment by Nagashiko • June 16, 2011 • 1:46 pm

Ahh well put. I rant and rave about this all the time and I feel like I’ve been doing so for years. I actually wrote a blog about Justin Bieber and one of my main points was that people don’t like him simply because he’s popular among teens, which is a terrible reason to hate someone. How funny that you wrote this, it was my thoughts exactly haha.

People who say they hate Twilight and haven’t actually read it make me want to punch a hole in the wall. I would never say I hate something I’ve never actually tried out. I remember wondering what all the fuss was about with the books, not expecting I’d really like them too much, and I fell in LOVE. So, it just goes to show you can’t judge something until you’ve tried it. But people are so ignorant that will never really happen. Oyy, people. >.<

Lol we also prefer Lilly to Emma. There are SO many people named Emma!

Comment by Kendra • June 16, 2011 • 9:34 pm

I get annoyed with those people who hate something popular, too. I’m surrounded by people who express their hate of Justin Bieber, Twilight, Rebecca Black, and anything else that’s popular in the media. They just can’t see that even though they visibly “hate” those icons, they’re still giving them popularity and fame, regardless of positivity or negativity. I don’t like Twilight, but I don’t hate it. And I certainly don’t give a damn about Justin Bieber or Rebecca Black. To me, they’re just people.

Comment by Nugget • June 16, 2011 • 10:35 pm

Well, I agree to that. I feel the same way you do. I honestly like Justin Beiber’s songs, but not him. I mean, his songs have great meaning, to be honest. Also, I honestly don’t like Twilight. I kind of liked the book & letting my imagination make the movie for me. But I really think having BOTH vampires AND warewolves in one story is too much of fiction. I have nothing against authors who use those characters. I just really think Twilight is too..OVER, if you know what I mean.

However, I don’t really like people expressing that through the word GAY. I mean, gay people still deserve to be respected. Also, I agree that people should give them chances. Like Twilight. People haven’t read them, yet hate them already. That really sucks. Worse than judging a book by its cover, since others actually refuse to see the cover. I hope people realize that.

Comment by Clauie • June 18, 2011 • 8:32 pm

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