“Don’t take it too seriously.”
I’m sick of the color blue. I’m sick of people comparing Twilight with Harry Potter. I’m sick of hearing Justin Bieber songs. I’m sick of teachers who don’t teach. I’m sick of people who think they’re better than everyone. I’m sick of a lot of things, but there’s one thing in particular that has just been so irritating to me – people telling me that high school relationships don’t last.
They all say the same thing, “You shouldn’t take high school relationships too seriously. They don’t last anyway.” This statement is, in a way, a bit contradictory. Telling a person not to take it seriously is both the cause and the effect of a bad relationship; of course it won’t last if you don’t take it seriously!
They’re gonna think that high school relationships aren’t supposed to mean anything, that they’re supposed to be temporary things. If heartbreak is going to be such a guarantee, why should anyone even get into a relationship in high school? If we weren’t meant to take relationships at a young age seriously or only have flings instead of meaningful relationships, then we’d all be sluts, now wouldn’t we?
Having a boyfriend in high school isn’t equivalent to wasting your love. Love is still love, no matter what your age. Though, statistically, most high school relationships don’t last, doesn’t mean that these relationships have any less worth than an adult relationship. I’ve seen some teenagers in pretty mature relationships. At the same time, I also know of some really immature adult relationships. Yet, I wouldn’t go ahead and make a hasty generalization. I wouldn’t immediately assume that all adults are that way; I think it’s only fair that the same is done in the way some people look at teenage relationships.
The annoying thing is, the people that tell me this are either currently single, forever single, only in relationships after high school or really, really old. I just really don’t understand why people try to act like experts in the things they don’t even understand – experiencing and knowing are two completely different things, after all. I know a lot of you are just concerned, but you have to learn to let things go sometimes. Parents, let your kids learn from their own mistakes instead of punishing them for yours. The same goes for everyone else. You may think you’re helping, but sometimes your intervention just makes things worse. If there’s really something wrong with the relationship, you can feel free to give your opinions and advice. But, if you’re going to immediately assume bad things will happen to a couple, without any actual basis besides age, I think it would be better if you just kept your mouth shut.
Having relationships in high school depends on how much effort there is in the relationship. Sometimes people marry their high school sweethearts and sometimes people separate from them. High school relationships are like romantic experiences of young people, regardless of whether it’s a quick fling or a serious one.
Comment by Nugget • February 2, 2011 • 5:28 am
I thoroughly agree. While most high school relationships don’t last, it doesn’t mean that people shouldn’t take them seriously or immediately judge people who are in a relationship at a young age. You can still experience relationships no matter how old you are and they will always help you learn in future.
Some people tend to be really concerned about certain things regarding other people when it really is a good idea for them to back off instead. People need space sometimes and while they may be struggling, they don’t need someone else telling them what they think and their opinions. I think that all parents need to stop imagining that their kids are like them. They are completely different people… sometimes I can just imagine all kids saying to their parents, “I’m not you.”
Comment by Georgina • February 3, 2011 • 10:01 am
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