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“Chill!”

I’m the type of person who likes defending her opinion. It goes a bit too far sometimes. Normal conversations with me often turn into full-on debates. This makes me seem a bit aggressive because I start feeling like I have to justify everything about me. Most times I don’t even realize how intense I’ve become.

I’m pretty hard to deal with for most people when I get like this. The people who aren’t like me just get annoyed. If I made a big deal out of something that was supposed to be a joke (which I actually do a lot), they just think I’m a killjoy. The people that are as stubborn as me, however, refuse to give up. Since I’m the same way, our little debate starts to become pretty ridiculous. It usually reaches a point when none of us are even making sense anymore, making up things to defend our stands.

I know there is no right or wrong opinion, but I just have a hard time not being “right” in debates sometimes, especially when I get so into it like I do. I apologize for all the times I may have been hard to deal with during arguments and if I made it seem like I thought your opinion was wrong when that’s not possible. When I get like that, I usually need a few minutes to clear my head.

While this is probably one of my more unattractive traits, it does come in handy during school debates. Somehow I can become passionate about something on cue, even if it is a view that opposes my own, as teachers often assign the sides of a debate instead of letting us choose which one we’re on. I just love the feeling of superiority that much. I love feeling that I won. Though they never announce winners in school debates, because there can’t be one, I just try the best that I can to make it as obvious to the opposing team as I can that they have been absolutely crushed.

I do realize that, in parts of this post, I made myself seem a mean. I made myself sound like the type of person who wouldn’t mind stepping on a few people to get to the top. In reality, I’m not that proud. I can be a bit of a pushover sometimes, actually. I become a different person when I “debate”. Sometimes that person comes out, and at the very worst times. I’m trying to avoid that though, I have to admit, victory-seeking, confident, not-a-pushover Clarisse is pretty good to have sometimes.

I’m like that too, I feel like I always need to argue something until the person I’m arguing with is convinced of my side. It’s not a very good trait. But that just means you’re not a pushover in a way.

Comment by Esme • May 23, 2011 • 7:13 pm

I completely understand you! That is one of the traits I possess too. When people look at me, I’m usually judged as the smiley, sensitive & soft type of girl. Yes, I am, however I am super competitive as well. Even if I “lose” something, it’s really not over for a while–it’d be in my head for a couple of days and possibly weeks before I finally let it go and even if I do manage to somehow say, “Oh good job! That was fun.” in the back of my mind, I’m thinking, “Watch, I’ll find a fact that’ll prove you wrong!” I don’t necessarily think it’s an awful thing to have, as long as it doesn’t get too out of hand.
In this case, have you ever thought about becoming a lawyer? Do debates sound interesting to you? If they do, I think you’d make a wonderful lawyer! (:

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You’re so lucky that you & your mom are best friends! Personally I think having an important bond with your parents is a wonderful thing to have. I hope you & your mom still remain as wonderful friends! (:

Clarisse

I love casual debating – just arguments that come up in regular conversation. I don’t like the formal debating as much. I guess that just means I like to argue, haha. Anyway, I’d be a terrible lawyer. I’m not exactly the best liar, you see, haha.

Comment by Chelsey • May 24, 2011 • 8:38 am

You know, just keep being yourself. If that’s who you are, show it. No matter what other people say. Who knows, maybe they’re just insecure since they can’t be who they be like you :”>

Comment by Clauie • May 24, 2011 • 10:49 am

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