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“But you guys are so different!”

I consider me and my boyfriend to be near complete opposites; him being as extroverted as I am introverted, as noisy as I am quiet, as fun as I am boring, as uninterested in reading and writing as I am interested, as free-spirited as I am uptight – a bunch of things.

A lot of people seem to think that those differences would make it hard for us to be a couple, most especially when we were just starting out.

As if any of those things matter to begin with.

It doesn’t matter that he’s tall and I’m short. It doesn’t matter that he’s friendly or that I’m awkward. It doesn’t matter.

At least we’re alike in the things that do matter, things like beliefs, morals, and priorities. Differences in those areas can cause misunderstandings, which are never good for any relationship.

Even more so, at least we’re different in what matters too. I have to admit that I can be stubborn. I can be irritatingly stubborn. He, on the other hand, can be so forgiving.

Where one of us is weak, the other is strong. I’d like to think that we make each other better people through our differences, and that’s always a nice thought.

I like being with someone who isn’t basically just a carbon copy of myself. It makes life more exciting, and I don’t think I’d like to be around someone like me all the time anyway. In all honesty, I can imagine it being pretty annoying, no offense to myself.

I just don’t think another me is right for me. Apparently, that last sentence is even more true than I’d realized.

Do you like being around people who are like you or people who are completely different? Comment about it below!

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I like being around people with some similarities to me, otherwise it’d be too hard to relate. They definitely don’t have to be very similar to me, as I can enjoy myself around many types of people.

As for relationships, everyone’s different and needs something different, and there’s no formula for something working for breaking. My boyfriend and I aren’t that alike, and it works. As long as everyone is committed and being there when they’re needed/wanted, the relationship will work. On that note, it is absolutely awesome that you and your boyfriend have something good going! Not many 15 year-olds can say that.

Comment by Stephanie • September 10, 2011 • 1:35 am

Well they say opposites attract. I guess being complete opposite from your boyfriend will just help you with your weaknesses like you said, though I never considered that because I’m very stubborn.

I like being around people who are like me, because once again I’m way stubborn. I like people who can agree with my a million theories, haha. It seems in movies I always like the people who are similar to me too, or have my qualities in exaggeration.

Comment by Liv • September 11, 2011 • 3:17 am

You and your boyfriend sound like a really good couple. I think it’s good to have differences, if someone always agrees with me, I find it tiresome after awhile, everyone is entitled to their own opinion and arguing (good-naturedly) over this vs. that is human nature.

I don’t mind really, I think it’s good to have a mix of personalities in a group of friends/relationship/workplace etc, because like you say, you can get easily bored or annoyed if everybody is just like yourself.

I’m not in a relationship at the moment, but I do like someone and they possibly like me back, and I can say that we are quite alike in some ways but in others completely different. Opposites attract perhaps?

Comment by Zoe • September 12, 2011 • 6:21 am

Hi Clarisse! That is quite interesting for you and your boyfriend to be such opposites. My own experience is entirely different because my boyfriend and I share so many likenesses, it’s a wonder how we found each other. I suppose in the end it doesn’t matter whether your S.O. is so similar to yourself or so extremely different as long as you are happy with each other and continue to grow stronger together!

Also, I really wanted to thank you for the kind words you wrote on my blog before :)

Comment by Kim • September 19, 2011 • 7:52 am

It’s nice to know that you have a healthy relationship with your boyfriend despite your differences. It’s pretty obvious that you guys complement each other and that’s always a good thing in any relationship. I can’t survive with anyone who’s just like me, too. So sometimes it’s best to hang out with people who are different compared to me coz that way, I get to discover more things, too!

Comment by Gel • September 20, 2011 • 11:14 pm

I like being around people who are different than me, but also very similar. It’s great when you meet someone who you think is “totally different” and then you end up having more incommon than you think! Plus I love learning new things, talking about things I wouldn’t talk about with “someone like myself” and so on.

Comment by Shiri • September 22, 2011 • 1:56 am

I like people who are at least a bit similar to me, or I wouldn’t have much to talk about with him. I haven’t had a boyfriend before, so I can’t really say from experience. xD
I find it awesome that people can just fall in love with a person, regardless if they’re similar or not. Just the overall essence of that one person.

Comment by Amy • September 25, 2011 • 9:27 pm

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